Programs coordinator Amber McPherson interviews Dr Jenny Brown about a specific, common flashpoint: one parent goes soft on a struggling kid, the other goes firm, and both start to feel like the other is making things worse. It’s the classic good-cop/bad-cop trap, except neither of you signed up to play a role.

Brown walks through why parents land on different approaches in the first place and how to turn that difference into a strength instead of a source of conflict — useful listening if you and your partner have ever argued about a kid within earshot of the kid.